What’s he gonna be {.029}

The other day Quentin and I were looking at Jayden play. He was playing with cars as usual. He doesn’t get excited about much else.

Quentin said, “I wonder what he’s gonna be when he grows up? A mechanic?”

I’ve thought about the same thing myself. It seems like his main interest is cars. But, has always liked singing & music as well.

I think he’d be fantastic at whatever he chooses to do. He has an infectious personality & isn’t afraid to talk to anyone.

My dad always told me that personality is everything. I certainly believe that because it’s gotten me to where I am now. He works with PhDs on a daily basis who have no personality and eventually they get fired. Not because they aren’t smart. But, because they don’t know the basics about how to interact with another person. For example, interrupting the CEO of their company durring a board meeting to tell him his calculations are wrong. Smart move.

You have to be a people-person to make it in this Country now a days. Credentials are important too. But the two combined are a force to be reckoned with. No one wants a smarty pants that is a nightmare to work with. There usually only a nightmare because they don’t know how to get their point across without offending everyone in the room. At that point their certainly a liability.

I will be uncertain about what Jayden wants to do until the day he tells me “Mommy, I want to be a _______.” That freaks me out because I’m very anal in that way. I want to know everything about everything, even if it’s borderline impossible.

For now, I find peace in knowing that wherever he goes, whatever he chooses to do, he will be successful because he knows how to interact with the people around him. Not because he studies them or has a PhD to say he “knows” all about them, but because he genuinely loves being around them and interacting with them. Knowledge that comes naturally is a gift.

I’ve gotta thank God for that.

We should take care not to make the intellect our god; it has, of course, powerful muscles, but no personality.

 Albert Einstein

Nipples {.028}

Kids have to learn their body parts sooner or later right? You know, the knee bone is connected to the hip bone {or something like that}. Well, sometimes I wish they didn’t because it’s awkward telling your child about their private body parts. The time came where my little man asked me what a private part of his body was and it was not fun.

After I gave Jayden a bath and dried him off with his towel, he started looking down at himself. He started poking his chest until he got to his nipple area. In my head I was already like “Oh Lord, please don’t let him ask me what that is!!!”.

Well, let’s just say that Jesus didn’t’ listen to me that time. Jayden asked me what it was. The problem is that he is so darn cute I tell him everything and anything. He asks me questions in his adorable little voice and looks up at me with those huge brown eyes and this time was no different.

“Whas is dis?!”, he asked. I hesitated. I asked “What the hell is it Nicole? You’ve gotta tell him something! A raisin? No, he’ll try to eat it. A button? No, he won’t stop playing with it.”

“A nipple!” I said with enthusiasm.

“A nipple?” he said, with a confused look on his face.

“Yes, a nipple.” I was determined to say that for the last time. It was just getting too awkward for me.

“It’s a nipple!” he said. I think he was just excited that he finally knew what those two buttons on his chest were called.

“That’s right.” I said. Trying to cut the conversation short.

Surprisingly enough. That was it. He didn’t talk about it for the rest of the morning. My fear of telling him the truth had been proven to be for no reason at all.

I guess he’s more mature than I think.

Fear is only as deep as the mind allows

Japanese Proverb

Asking All Them Questions {.021}

I knew Jayden would be inquisitive, like all children are – but I didn’t know I’d be answering questions every moment we are together. The cutest thing about all of is questions are he asks the same batch of them over & over again. Here are all of the questions I get asked…everyday.

 “Mommy! Whats is this?!”

“Wha you cooking?”

” Wha you doing?”

” I help?”

“It’s a Daddy?”

“It’s GuMa?”

“Daddy seeping?”

 “I show Daddy?”

“I play?”

“Can you open it?”

“I cuddle?”

 The cooking one is new. But somehow I always have a “No” answer for that. He needs to ask Daddy. 😛

Have a great weekend!

If you are not moving closer to what you want in life, you probably aren’t doing enough asking.

 – Jack Canfield