Daddy & Son {.034}

Yesterday, I’m sure Jayden had a blast from the past. He didn’t have to go to school until 12:00PM because he went going to a doctor’s appointment with Daddy! He’s always craving more attention and more alone time with him. It was much needed and well deserved. When Jayden goes anywhere he’s a good boy, at the Doctor’s was no different. His pediatrician is one of the best I’ve seen {& we’ve been through a couple}. I trust her and she always goes for the treatment that will be the least harmful side effect wise for Jayden. That’s all I can ask for from a person who basically has my child’s life and well being in her hands when it comes to medical recommendations.  After the doctor’s appointment Quentin took Jayden to get something to eat (Jayden’s favorite past time) at Boston Market instead of dropping him off at school for lunch.
All in all I’m sure they had a fantastic time. Hopefully we’ll have time to have fun as a family on the weekend.
Ordinary time is “quality time” too. Everyday activities are not just necessities that keep you from serious child rearing: they are the best opportunities for learning you can give your child…because her chief task in her first three years is precisely to gain command of the day-to-day life you take for granted.
– Amy Laura

Press Play {.033}

I haven’t had time to play with my little one in so long. I mean really play. Like, lay on the floor & roll around like goofballs kind of play. I’ve always done something structured with him, which was fun for me cause I’m an adult, but not so much for him. When he came home from daycare he just wanted to play in his own way. He politely asked me to help him turn on the light so he could get his cars and off he went into his toddler dream land, while he was awake. I started to play with him a little, but to be honest I didn’t even realize what I was doing. It was like I was in another world. Just me and him. No homework. No phone. No responsibilities. Then, something clicked and I got up to look something up on the computer. I was planning on coming right back. But, realistically – how many times do I tell myself that & get caught up? Almost, always.

He was disappointed. Usually he won’t pay me any mind and continue playing by himself. But, this time he said “Come here, this is yours”, handing me the car I was playing with. That broke my heart and I immediately rushed over to finish playing with him. I had so much fun. It was just so interesting to dive into his world. Not, a structured game Mommy made up or anything. But, something that he truly enjoys. I honestly thought he would be super territorial over his coveted cars. Surprisingly (to me anyway), he was so incredibly generous, kind and gentle.  That’s a little snapshot of how he plays with his classmates I guess.

I always knew there was something special about this little boy. But, man – God shows me something more spectacular about him everyday. He’s my little angel on Earth.

Family values are a little like family vacations -— subject to changeable weather and remembered more fondly with the passage of time. Though it rained all week at the beach, it’s often the momentary rainbows that we remember.

 –Leslie Dreyfous, New York Times, Oct. 25, 1992

Mother’s Day Weekend {.032}

The weekend that passed was the best Mother’s Day weekend ever. I got lots of hugs and kisses. Calls from family and friends. Thoughtful gifts. Quality time with my boys. Home made peperoni and green pepper pizza. Random little strawberries in my backyard. And Relaxation. The only bummer was that I realized that I missed my little boy’s Mother’s Day lunch. I mixed up the dates and totally missed it. When I realized what happened, I cried. I told Jayden I was sorry and him saying “It’s okay, Mommy” made me come back to earth and realize that I’m only human trying to do everything and I will forget something or do something wrong. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but instead of wallowing in my mistake. I embraced the fact that he was there with my the entire weekend so we could spend some quality time together.

 “Finding some quiet time in your life, I think, is hugely important.

Mariel Hemingway

No love {.031}

Me: So, Jayden. You know Mother’s Day is coming up right?

Jayden: Yea.

Me: Did you decide what you’re going to get me?

Jayden: Yes.

Me: Well, what is it!?

Jayden: Milk.

Me: Milk?

Jayden: Yes, milk.

Me: Okay. Well, Father’s Day is coming up this summer! What are you going to get Daddy!?

Jayden: A beach.

Me: ::mouth wide open:: A beach?

Jayden: AND milk.

Me: Oh! Okay. Well, good for him then.

Apparently my mothering has only been good enough to warrant a glass of milk and nothing more. Epic fail.

 

Children remind us to treasure the smallest of gifts, even in the most difficult of times.

-Allen Klein

What’s he gonna be {.029}

The other day Quentin and I were looking at Jayden play. He was playing with cars as usual. He doesn’t get excited about much else.

Quentin said, “I wonder what he’s gonna be when he grows up? A mechanic?”

I’ve thought about the same thing myself. It seems like his main interest is cars. But, has always liked singing & music as well.

I think he’d be fantastic at whatever he chooses to do. He has an infectious personality & isn’t afraid to talk to anyone.

My dad always told me that personality is everything. I certainly believe that because it’s gotten me to where I am now. He works with PhDs on a daily basis who have no personality and eventually they get fired. Not because they aren’t smart. But, because they don’t know the basics about how to interact with another person. For example, interrupting the CEO of their company durring a board meeting to tell him his calculations are wrong. Smart move.

You have to be a people-person to make it in this Country now a days. Credentials are important too. But the two combined are a force to be reckoned with. No one wants a smarty pants that is a nightmare to work with. There usually only a nightmare because they don’t know how to get their point across without offending everyone in the room. At that point their certainly a liability.

I will be uncertain about what Jayden wants to do until the day he tells me “Mommy, I want to be a _______.” That freaks me out because I’m very anal in that way. I want to know everything about everything, even if it’s borderline impossible.

For now, I find peace in knowing that wherever he goes, whatever he chooses to do, he will be successful because he knows how to interact with the people around him. Not because he studies them or has a PhD to say he “knows” all about them, but because he genuinely loves being around them and interacting with them. Knowledge that comes naturally is a gift.

I’ve gotta thank God for that.

We should take care not to make the intellect our god; it has, of course, powerful muscles, but no personality.

 Albert Einstein

Sleep {.015}

Last night I felt like a zombie. It was a mentally exhausting day.

Jayden is wired, not ready to go to bed & where is mom?

Blissfully sleeping on the couch.

Quentin took care of him for the remainder of the night & when I peeled my eyes open at around 9:30 he was still up.

How my little one has more energy than me – I don’t know.

I’ll tell you one thing though…I woke up refreshed!

A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.

Irish Proverb

Laundry {.011}

Laundry is terrible. We all know this. Lately it has been unbearable. It just seems like I don’t have time for it and when I do it’s not enough time to complete the cycle {wash, dry, fold}. Jayden loves to help sort the laundry and put it in the dryer. It makes things run a tad bit longer, but it’s totally worth it to see him excited about helping Mom.

I mean, realistically it’s my own fault. The problem is I’m not organized when it comes to getting it done or putting it away. There is one basket for my baby boy and one basket for Quentin and I. That’s it. I don’t sort colors or anything, which makes the process a whole lot longer than it needs to be. In a perfect world I could literally throw the laundry in, fold it, and put it away. That’s it. The reality is – that’s obtainable! I just have no idea how to get started. Well, I shouldn’t say that. I’m just afraid that I’m going to get this awesome system in place & not follow through with it, therefore wasting my time & possibly money.

So, I’m calling out to you blogosphere! How do you keep your family’s laundry clean on a consistent basis? Do you wash twice a week? Once? Do you use a special sorting system? What time of day do you choose to do your laundry? Who gets involved? Just tell me everything! Let me into your house and take me through a day in the life of your laundry because Lord knows my laundry needs serious lessons from a professional.

I believe you should live each day as if it is your last, which is why I don’t have any clean laundry, because, come on, who wants to wash clothes on the last day of their life?

 
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